I definitely remember that when we came to McKeesport, it was cold and it was snowing. Later I was told it was Thanksgiving.
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The story
- 01
1890s–1910
Bakers of Proskurov
The Kesslers, first spelled Tessler, were bakers in Proskurov, a heavily Jewish grain-milling town in Ukraine now called Khmelnytskyi. Around 1907 Laibe's grandfather Leib left for America; Laibe heard that he and his eldest son Philip were smuggled across the border in a haystack to keep Philip out of the Czar's army, while Uncle Morris remembered the father going first and Philip following. They settled in McKeesport, where Leib's sister already lived, peddled produce from a horse and wagon, and sent tickets for the rest of the family. When Sadie's fiancé declined his ticket, it went to a motherless cousin, Jake Pildish, who nursed the seasick family across the ocean to a snowy Thanksgiving arrival. Laibe's mother's family, the Levines of the Kovno district, made their own crossing, and his grandmother went into labor at sea and was put ashore at Halifax, where his mother was born.
- A Letter About Proskurov
Laibe reads from a letter from his cousin Floyd Kessler's brother describing the town where his father's family was born: renamed Khmelnytskyi in 1954, 40 percent Jewish in 1926, and emptied of its Jews in 1942. The family were bakers in a grain-milling center.
- Born in Proskurov
After a little microphone setup, Morris gives his birth in Proskurov in 1906 and describes his father, a baker, going alone to McKeesport, where his sister lived. His eldest brother followed, the two became produce hucksters, and they sent tickets for the rest of the family.
- Hidden in a Haystack
Laibe's grandfather and his eldest son, Philip, left Proskurov in 1907. To keep Philip out of the Czar's army, they paid a farmer to carry them across the border hidden in a haystack, then sailed from Hamburg to Ellis Island and went on to relatives in McKeesport. The grandfather was a baker, but the ship's manifest lists him as a laborer.
- The Extra Ticket
Laibe names his grandmother Fanny and her six children. Sadie's fiancé in Russia chose not to come, which left a spare ticket. The family gave it to a motherless cousin, Jake Pildish, who left his father behind and never saw him again. Laibe adds that the family name was originally Tessler, spelled with a T.
- Thanksgiving Snow in McKeesport
Cousin Jake Pildish refuses to be left behind and nurses the seasick family on the crossing. They land at Ellis Island, take the train to McKeesport and arrive in snow, at Thanksgiving, at the father's apartment at 206 1/2 Market Street.
- Born Off the Coast of Halifax
Laibe's mother's family, the Levines, were Litvaks from the Kovno district and claimed seventeen generations of rabbis. His grandmother went into labor on the ship and was put ashore at Halifax, so his mother was born in Canada. Her father went back to Lithuania and was never heard from again. Laibe also describes the prosperous McKeesport Levines and their Union Clothing store, and his parents' marriage at 17 and 18.
- 02
1910–1930
Hucksters, Socialists and the Kessler Building
In McKeesport the family worked its way up from two horses named Fred and Belle to a grocery where mill workers bought on credit until payday. Philip led the town's Socialist Party, and young Morris typed its notices and sat beside Eugene Debs at a rally. As the city celebrated the 1918 Armistice, the family buried its father, a victim of the influenza epidemic, and within a year their mother was gone too, leaving Philip, still in his twenties, at the head of a crowded household. After the war Philip also brought over his elderly grandfather, whom no one dared tell that his son had died, and a cousin who had escaped the Russian army across Siberia. The brothers moved into real estate and insurance, put Morris through law school, and in 1928 raised the three-story Kessler Building, which the Depression took from them in 1930.
- Fred, Belle, and the Penny Store
The children watch the blacksmith across the street. The huckster business grows to two horses, Fred and Belle, and about 1915 the father opens a grocery where penny candy is sold and mill workers buy on credit. Morris delivers orders on his way back to school.
- In the Front Row with Eugene Debs
Philip, a political activist since arriving, led McKeesport's Socialist Party, and twelve-year-old Morris typed its notices as 'secretary'. Morris sat beside Eugene Debs at a McKeesport rally and met Morris Hillquit, Victor Berger and Norman Thomas.
- Armistice Day and Two Funerals
Philip is drafted in 1917, and Jake Pildish gets him transferred into the Quartermaster Corps before he can be shipped overseas. As McKeesport celebrates the Armistice, the family mourns the father, who died of Spanish influenza on November 4, 1918. Their mother dies the next October.
- The Grandfather Who Was Never Told
Asked about earlier generations, Morris describes his paternal grandfather, whom Philip brought from Europe after the war: a small old man with a long white beard who boasted of running a big farm. The family hid his son's death, until one Sabbath walk to shul when the old man told young Morris he knew. Philip later arranged a match for him.
- Baba Brana and the Siberian Escape
Morris knows little of his mother's family: her mother was remembered as 'Baba Brana', and a Silverberg relative in London once wrote to Philip for help. He also remembers cousin Motel, who deserted the Russian army, crossed Siberia to Japan, and was brought to McKeesport by Philip.
- Three and a Half Rooms
Philip marries Eva of Connellsville, runs a junk business, then returns to McKeesport with a popcorn-and-soda confectionery on Fifth Avenue. The orphaned siblings crowd into his small Seventh Street apartment until, one by one, they marry and leave.
- Abe's Fruit Store and the Banana King
Morris plans to become a lawyer and works at his brother Abe's fruit store at 545 Fifth Avenue, scrubbing lettuce and celery on Friday nights and selling bananas from Jordan, the local banana king. An Easter snowstorm ruins their stock. Philip then brings Abe into his real estate and insurance business during the 1920s boom.
- The Kessler Building and the Crash
Tuition is cheap, and Morris earns his weekly $5 on Saturdays at Max Lebowitz's clothing store. Philip, a speculator, puts up the three-story Kessler Building in 1928 and loses it to foreclosure in the Depression, just as Morris finishes law school and is admitted to the bar in 1930.
- 03
1923–1940
A Fatherless Boy in McKeesport
Laibe was born in McKeesport in 1923 and given only his Hebrew name, which he never traded for an English one. His father Abe died of pneumonia in 1930, still in his early thirties, and 200 automobiles joined the funeral procession; with the business gone, his mother Elizabeth went to work, helped by a New Deal home loan and by Uncle Morris, who moved in with the family. Temple B'nai Israel and its unpaid leader Egon Pessin filled the gap his father left, with basketball, Scouts, plays and a 7 a.m. minyan every morning for four years after his bar mitzvah. Laibe also felt the edge of anti-Semitism when he was passed over for school patrol captain despite being class president. His sister Adelaide was the town's celebrated beauty, and through her circle he met the Penn State fraternity men who set his course for college.
- The Name I Was Left to Choose
The interview opens with its date and interviewers. Laibe explains that his parents gave him only his Hebrew name, Laibe, and expected him to pick an English name later, which he never did. The name came from his grandfather, and two cousins carried it too.
- Two Hundred Automobiles for Abe
The brothers went from peddling produce to a grocery store to real estate and insurance, and in the 1920s they built the Kessler Building in McKeesport. The Depression took everything just as Laibe's father died in 1930, at 32. Laibe recalls the 200 cars in the funeral procession, the family's synagogue known as "Cox's Army," and how, without a father, he found a home at Temple B'nai Israel.
- Elizabeth Raises Laibe and Adelaide
Abe's widow Elizabeth goes to work for the United Jewish Appeal in Pittsburgh, and through its leader Mr. Rosenblum she gets scholarships for Laibe, who becomes a neurosurgeon. Philip, broke after the crash, becomes a star Reliance Life Insurance salesman on Morris's advice and later returns to real estate in Mount Lebanon.
- Adelaide, McKeesport's Legendary Beauty
Laibe's only sibling, his sister Adelaide, was born in 1918 and was famous in town for her looks. She went to Pitt, taught shorthand, married Gilbert Farkas, and moved to Cleveland. Laibe proudly describes their two sons, including one who was elected class president every year.
- Egon Pessin's Temple
Egon Pessin, a German-born would-be opera singer who once sang in the Metropolitan Opera chorus, ran Temple B'nai Israel without pay and filled the gap left by Laibe's father. The temple was the center of the boys' lives: basketball, Scouts, Hebrew school, plays, and a 7 a.m. minyan every morning for four years after bar mitzvah, rewarded with a watch Laibe still has.
- A Widow, a Mortgage, the New Deal
With the business gone and Uncle Phil bankrupt, Laibe's mother went to work for $79 a month. A New Deal home loan in about 1936 finally lifted the fear of losing the house. Laibe's uncle, the lawyer, who had come straight from his law school graduation to Laibe's father's funeral, moved in with them, repaying the brothers who had put him through school.
- Passed Over for Patrol Captain
Laibe describes how isolated Jews were in the 1930s and how the shared hardship drew McKeesport's Jews together. Asked about personal anti-Semitism, he tells a story he says he had never told anyone: in eighth grade, despite being class president and newspaper editor, he was passed over for school patrol captain without a word.
- Biggie Goldberg and Penn State
Adelaide's suitors included All-American Marshall 'Biggie' Goldberg, and through her circle Laibe met Penn State fraternity men he admired. Uncle Phil promised the family would pay for college, Penn State turned out cheaper than Pitt, and Laibe joined Phi Epsilon Pi. The tape closes with recorder chatter as Sydelle arrives.
- 04
1930–1970s
Uncle Morris's McKeesport
Morris finished law school the summer his brother Abe died and opened his office in the Kessler Building with a $500 bank loan granted on the strength of the Kessler name. For nearly five decades he rode the train from McKeesport to his Pittsburgh office and kept evening hours back home. In 1939 he married Rose, whom he had met on a McKeesport tennis court, spent the furniture money on a Bermuda cruise, and soon bought a house they had long admired, where they raised Elaine, Susie and Alice. His brother Philip, who broke the barrier against selling Mount Lebanon property to Jews, died in the mid-1950s. Morris later served about a dozen years on the McKeesport school board, leading the opposition to Bible reading after the Supreme Court ruling, and took a city council seat on condition that he join no faction, breaking up a lending racket in the garbage department before keeping his promise not to run again.
- A $500 Loan to Start Out
Abe dies of pneumonia the day before Morris's bar exam in 1930. Morris opens his law office in the Kessler Building, and the elderly bank president Mr. Shaw lends him $500 on the strength of the Kessler name.
- Love on the Tennis Court
Morris opens a Pittsburgh office near his law-school friends and rides the B&O daily for decades. He meets Rose on a McKeesport tennis court and marries her on March 9, 1939. They rent Elizabeth's house, where teenage Laibe lives with them, and after Elaine's birth in 1940 they move to Duquesne Avenue.
- Bermuda Instead of Furniture
In 1939 the newlyweds put furniture money toward a Bermuda cruise with Dr. Frank Bondy and kept Elizabeth's old bedroom suite for twenty years. In World War II Morris is deferred as a father and serves as a fire warden, while little Elaine asks whether Daddy will come home every night.
- No All-Night Prom
The girls do well in school. Appointed to the school board, Morris hands Elaine her diploma, but he refuses to let her stay out all night after the prom or join the next-day trip to Ligonier, and he keeps chaperoning proms afterward.
- Breaking the Line in Mount Lebanon
The Kessler brothers were Jewish community leaders in McKeesport. In Mount Lebanon, the real estate board turned Philip down because he was Jewish, and he went on to sell what Morris believes was the first property there to a Jewish buyer.
- Philip's Last Christmas
Philip dies of heart trouble on Christmas Day. That night 16-year-old Elaine skips her formal dance. Morris recalls seeing him at the office a day or two before, complaining of his heart.
- Bible Reading and the School Board
Over 11 or 12 years on the McKeesport school board, Morris serves as president and leads the opposition to continuing Bible reading after the Supreme Court ruling, as new members push to censor books and teachers. He helps recruit a new superintendent, then declines to run again.
- Cleaning Up the Garbage Department
Morris breaks up a foreman's 100-percent-interest lending racket by handing out paychecks himself, gets the city new garbage trucks, and persuades a bank marking its anniversary to fund all-weather tennis courts. He keeps his promise not to run again, though he later regrets it.
- 05
1940–1948
Nine Places a Year
At Penn State Laibe found his first real Jewish leadership, living in the Phi Epsilon Pi house and chairing the campus's first United Jewish Appeal drive in 1941, where the biggest gift was ten dollars. Pearl Harbor turned the campus into a military post, and Pitt's medical school held Jews to eight or nine places a year, so Laibe had to wait until community leader Charles Rosenbloom secured him a seat. He filled the gap in the Navy, enduring a frigid Great Lakes boot camp, facing down a 'Yankee Jew' slur, and serving as a pharmacist's mate at Patuxent River. Back at medical school he raised $600 from six returning veterans, the seed of the United Jewish Fund's Young Adult Division, and in 1947 a secret visitor from the Haganah led him to raise $30,000 in cash in thirty days for the Jews of Palestine.
- Chairman of the First Campus Drive
Through Hillel, and after volunteering in the Pittsburgh UJF office his mother managed, Laibe chaired Penn State's first United Jewish Appeal drive in 1941 and raised about $1,500. He credits UJF figures Maurice Taylor and Arthur Rosichan, and laughs that his assistant, future Federation president Jesse Cohen, gave the largest gift: ten dollars.
- Pearl Harbor Comes to Penn State
Laibe led the campus tribunal, his fraternity house, and the lacrosse team as manager. When news of Pearl Harbor came, the students thought war sounded glamorous. Soon the campus was in uniform, with rationing and their fraternity house leased to the Army, while pre-med students like Laibe were deferred.
- Nine Jewish Students a Year
Pitt's medical school took 85 students a year and held Jews to about ten percent, alternating nine one year and eight the next, and nobody objected. Laibe applied only to Pitt. Dean McElroy told him to wait for an opening, and community leader Charles Rosenbloom intervened to secure his place for the following year.
- Damn Yankee, Yankee Jew
The only college graduate in a company of mostly Appalachian draftees, Laibe was assigned to teach the men to sign their names, and he heard country music for the first time (he hated it). As the only Jew, he overheard a recruit call him a 'Yankee Jew', challenged him to a fight, and got an apology.
- Patuxent River, Not San Francisco
The group ahead of Laibe on the posting list went to the Pacific, but he drew Patuxent River Naval Air Station in Maryland, near Washington. He spent a year there as a pharmacist's mate third class, a rating given to anyone with a college degree, until orders came to return to medical school.
- Six Friends, Six Hundred Dollars
In 1946, as fraternity brothers came home from the war, Laibe asked six of them for $100 each for the United Jewish Fund. They included Al Moses, captured at the Battle of the Bulge. The UJF office was thrilled, and the gift became the seed of the Young Adult Division, which Laibe organized with Joe Silberstein.
- A Call From the Haganah
In 1947, a stranger phoned Laibe at the Ruskin Apartments using the name of his Penn State fraternity brother Arthur Jaffe, who had joined the Haganah. They met in secret at the Webster Hall coffee shop.
- Thirty Thousand Dollars in Cash
With British agents watching for Haganah money, Laibe gathered ten veteran friends at the Seventh Avenue Hotel and started a chain of house meetings that raised $30,000 in cash in 30 days. He recalls a crate of 'books for Palestine' that burst open on a New Jersey dock, revealing guns.
- 06
1948
A Diary Among the Survivors
His mother's graduation gift was a journey of about two months through postwar Europe in spring 1948 as a guest of the American Jewish Joint Distribution Committee, and he kept a diary that he read aloud for the recorder in 1995. In Paris he met Chaim Weizmann and survivors with nowhere to go; near Milan he walked his first displaced persons camp to greetings of 'shalom'; and in Rome he stood as an honored guest while the flag of the new State of Israel was raised. In Vienna's roofless synagogue the whole congregation rose for Kaddish, in Prague he found the Theresienstadt survivor whose family had asked him on Capri to look for her, and he walked Dachau in the rain. He ended in Shipley, Yorkshire, with that family, who had quietly saved their egg ration so he could have an egg every day.
- VIP I: Postwar Europe, 1948
On graduating from medical school in April 1948, Laibe spoke at a national federation meeting in Chicago. With help from Kitty Falk and Harry Rosen, he then toured Europe for three months as a 'VIP I'. He visited children's homes, displaced-persons camps, Theresienstadt, and Dachau, where the victims' belongings were still in place, and saw a starving continent where American cigarettes were the only real currency.
- What Is There for Me to Live?
At a JDC transient home, Laibe finds residents too demoralized to care for themselves. An old woman's question in Yiddish brings him to condemn the countries whose quotas keep these people stranded.
- I Learned Complete Humility
In his first real displaced persons camp, Laibe walks among rows of cots and is greeted with 'shalom'. He tells of a hunger strike against the IRO's plan to move the camps south, Polish farmers training for a cooperative, a good medical setup, and an Italian Jewish JDC worker.
- Raising Israel's Flag in Rome
In Rome a Dr. Finkelstein showed him hospital rounds, and the Haganah talked him out of continuing to Palestine. Instead he was invited as an honored guest to the raising of the Israeli flag in Rome when the state was declared in May 1948.
- Kaddish in a Roofless Synagogue
At the first Friday-night service in Vienna's bombed-out main synagogue, every person in the congregation rose for the memorial prayer. Laibe, who had said Kaddish alone as a boy after losing his father at seven, says that night showed him the Jewish people are one.
- Was I Fortunate?
Laibe meets the Capri couple's sister in Prague. She lost her parents, three brothers and husband in the camps, survived Theresienstadt, Auschwitz, Hamburg and Belsen, and now cannot leave Czechoslovakia to join her sister in England.
- Dachau in the Rain
Laibe chooses to spend his last day in Munich at Dachau. He walks the barracks, the gas chamber labeled 'bathhouse' and the crematorium in drenching rain, then leaves for Paris on the Orient Express.
- Shipley, Yorkshire: And So Ends My Tale
Laibe travels to Shipley to see the sister of Hannah, the Prague survivor. The Kellners welcome him, and he spends days of Yorkshire hospitality: Bolton Abbey, playing a nine-foot piano, tea in the garden, and a formal dance in Harrogate with Amy.
- 07
1948–1961
From House Calls to the Operating Microscope
After interning at Montefiore, Pittsburgh's Jewish hospital, Laibe opened general practices in Squirrel Hill and the Hill District, making two-in-the-morning house calls for about five dollars. The Korean War doctor draft put him back in uniform as an Air Force flight surgeon, the only Jew in his unit in South Carolina and then deputy medical commander at Chaumont in France. Convinced general practice was ending, he trained in neurosurgery under Yale David Koskoff, then at New York's Neurological Institute, where Jewish residents were rare, and with James Poppen at Boston's Lahey Clinic. His first paying job, in Dallas in 1959, was short-lived, cut short by segregated hospital doors and Sydelle's loneliness, and at Montefiore Hospital in the Bronx he helped bring the first Zeiss operating microscope sold in New York into brain surgery.
- The Quota and the Promise
With only eight or nine Jewish students per class at Pitt Medical School, Montefiore pressed them to intern there, warning they could not otherwise practice there. A family friend telephoned Laibe's mother to secure his commitment, a promise he now feels the community broke.
- House Calls in the Hill District
Around 1950 Laibe opened general practices at Darlington and Murray in Squirrel Hill and at Kirkpatrick and Centre in the Hill District, which he shared with Shep Isaacson. He made 2 a.m. house calls with his black bag and treated prisoners in withdrawal at the police station. Once, the whole neighborhood surrounded his car to stop a patrolman from ticketing it.
- The Only Jew at Christmas
The doctor-draft law sent Laibe back into uniform despite his wartime Navy service, and he ran outpatient clinics at a base in South Carolina. As the only Jew in his unit, he offered to cover Christmas duty, but his colleagues insisted he celebrate.
- Flight Surgeon in France
After flight surgeon school at Randolph in Texas, Laibe was sent to Europe instead of Korea, serving as deputy medical commander at the Chaumont air base. He was dismayed that French doctors diagnosed everything as 'liver trouble,' campaigned to fix the F-84's seat, flew all over Europe, and separated from his first wife.
- 'Either That Jew Leaves or I Leave'
Laibe tells how the famed Jewish neurosurgeon Leo Davidoff was forced out of Presbyterian when Byron Stookey gave the board an ultimatum. He also recalls a rebuke for offering a 'psychiatric opinion', and how he diagnosed a Yiddish-speaking woman's trigeminal neuralgia that no one else had understood.
- At the Elbow of James Poppen
Having married Sydelle in his last year of residency, Laibe took a six-month fellowship at the Lahey Clinic in Boston under James Poppen, whom he considered the world's greatest neurosurgeon. He relays Poppen's stories of Harvey Cushing and Gilbert Horrax, the founders of American neurosurgery.
- Two Doors at Parkland Hospital
Walking through a 'whites only' door at Parkland Hospital in 1959 forces Laibe to ask what he would sacrifice to oppose segregation; he notes he would have been the ER doctor who received President Kennedy had he stayed. Seeing Sydelle depressed, he calls Montefiore in New York and leaves Dallas within a week.
- The First Microscope in New York
At Montefiore in the Bronx, under Charles Carton and affiliated with the new Albert Einstein College of Medicine, Laibe joins early research on stroke and small blood vessel surgery. His group buys the first Zeiss operating microscope sold in New York and, in 1960, uses it on a brain vessel.
- 08
1961–1995
The Rise and Fall of Montefiore
Laibe came home to Pittsburgh in 1961 to make Montefiore his base, but his old mentor Koskoff was cool to him, and he built a practice by driving to outlying hospitals. He watched the hospital's young lay leaders, his stepbrother Lester Hamburg among them, tie Montefiore to the University of Pittsburgh and tell some 200 protesting doctors they could leave; an early meeting of the breakaway Central Medical Pavilion was held in Laibe's living room. Invited to take over neurosurgery at Allegheny General around 1963, he moved there for good when his Montefiore operating room was taken in about 1972, and he built a department that grew from 40 cases a year to 550 under him and about 2,500 under his successor, Joseph Maroon. Recognition came late, with a first Pitt appointment in the 1960s, a full professorship at Allegheny General's new medical school in 1988, and retirement from surgery on January 1, 1995.
- Borrowed Instruments, Cold Welcome
His stepbrother Lester Hamburg smooths his return to Pittsburgh's Montefiore, but his former mentor Yale David Koskoff is hostile and the head nurse bars him from using Koskoff's instruments. Board president Stanley Cahn buys him his own set.
- "You Can Leave": The Doctors' Revolt
Laibe lists what Montefiore had, including 200 active physicians, nine board-certified cardiologists, and a research neurosurgeon. When the doctors packed a meeting to protest, about 1962, his stepbrother Lester Hamburg told them they could leave, which Laibe calls the start of the hospital's downfall.
- Central Medical Pavilion Is Born
Doctors Stanley Rosenbloom and Hal Zubrow, with developer Jimmy Cooper, founded Central Medical Pavilion as an independent hospital; its first meeting of about 40 physicians took place in Laibe's own living room. Laibe had visited Rosenbloom on his deathbed two weeks before this interview.
- Coffee with Rowe and the Invitation
Asked by AGH's neurologist to come work there, Laibe insists the invitation come from the neurosurgeons themselves. After a Saturday meeting, Drs. Rowe and Grunigle take him for coffee and ask him to take over neurosurgery at Allegheny General.
- The Surgeons' Petition
When the 'Concerned Physicians' sued Montefiore, Laibe wrote a petition of support and reads it aloud; all 39 surgeons signed. The doctors lost in court, and many left for the Central Medical Pavilion and newly open hospitals, as Lester Hamburg had told them to.
- Building Neurosurgery at Allegheny General
With surgery chairman George Magovern as an ally, Laibe pushes AGH toward specialized floors, specialized nurses and imaging staff, and a head injury service, and patents a device for comatose patients. He first wrote about intraluminal manipulation of the cerebral circulation in 1969.
- Giving Away Their Future
A board president told Laibe over dinner that Montefiore was losing $25,000 a day in the early 1970s. Laibe argues the hospital squandered its real lifeblood, the young Jewish specialists it had trained, himself included.
- Professor at Last
Laibe receives Pitt appointments in the 1960s and 1977, though even surgery chief George Magovern finds it ironic that he must recommend a full professor. AGH's new medical school makes him a full professor in 1988; he retired from surgery January 1, 1995, and now teaches and does medico-legal consulting.
- 09
1956–1995
Sydelle and a House Full of Music
In New York around Christmas 1956, songwriter Ann Ronell introduced Laibe to Sydelle Radin, a Brooklyn-born singer and former Mademoiselle fashion director who stunned a restaurant on their first evening by singing along with a strolling violinist. They married on March 2, 1957, in a rabbi's study before about fifteen guests. Sydelle, a childhood friend of Beverly Sills, gave up singing to raise Adam, Emily and Philip, and in Pittsburgh the Kesslers' home became a gathering place for the Symphony and the Opera, with William Steinberg and visiting artists among their guests. Sydelle hosted a weekly opera program on WQED-FM, which the couple helped build, until a newspaper item that left out every Jewish name soured the relationship. Her concern for the children's Jewish education led her to enroll Philip at the Hebrew Institute, which drew Laibe back into Jewish communal life.
- Married in Three Months
Laibe introduced Sydelle to his mother and Elmer Hamburg at the Plaza, admired her refusal to break plans with a friend, and married her on 2 March 1957 in a New York rabbi's study before about 15 guests. Thirty-eight years on, they still forget their anniversary.
- Sydelle, Stylist and Singer
Married March 2, 1957, in New York, Sydelle had worked for Mademoiselle, run an antique jewelry shop, and pioneered freelance photo styling while studying voice. Her best friend was Beverly Sills, but Sydelle gave up singing to marry and raise a family.
- A House Full of Musicians
Laibe and Sydelle's social life centers on music: they throw parties for the Pittsburgh Symphony, the Opera, and the Civic Light Opera's touring leads, often through their friend, associate conductor Karl Kritz. He points to photographs of guests including William Steinberg, Isaac Stern, Sasha Schneider, Chaim Potok, and Yefim Bronfman.
- Sydelle's Opera Hour
WQED-FM ran on a $62,000 budget, so the Kesslers gave and raised money. At Jack Summers's suggestion Sydelle, a former New York classical singer, hosted a weekly opera program, and the couple raised the money for her $5,000 stipend themselves.
- The Names Left Out
After the Kesslers hosted a WQED party for a visiting Chinese opera company, the newspaper item omitted every Jewish name and even their home, and also neurosurgeon Peter Sheptak, who was not Jewish. Overhearing a conversation at Montefiore explained why; WQED's reply blamed the newspaper.
- Steinberg, Sills, and the Symphony
The Kesslers' circle was more musical than medical: patients in the orchestra, friendship with William Steinberg, parties for visiting artists, and Sydelle's childhood friend Beverly Sills staying with them. Yet they were never asked onto the symphony board, which Laibe calls subliminal anti-Semitism.
- Sydelle Sends Philip to Hebrew School
Sydelle, raised Jewish without synagogue or committees, worries that Adam and Emily got little Jewish education at their Reform congregation. In 1973 she enrolls Philip at the Hebrew Institute, which draws Laibe onto its board and eventually into its presidency.
- 10
1946–1995
Never Again Without a Fight
Community work ran through Laibe's whole life, from the Young Adult Division he helped start in 1946 to his years as physician to the Jewish Home for the Aged and his presidency of the Hebrew Institute around 1980. In 1990 he revived the UJF Physicians Division, finding about a thousand Jewish doctors across 28 hospitals where once only Montefiore would have them, and he founded Pittsburgh's Maimonides Society. Through AIPAC he lobbied senators and congressmen for Israel, and on September 12, 1991, he was among about 1,200 activists on Capitol Hill when President Bush publicly attacked the push for loan guarantees to resettle Soviet Jews in Israel. In 1995 he agreed to lead the Jewish Family Assistance Fund, persuaded it was the one organization that truly helps a person who is down and out, and he closed the interviews with his belief that boards should raise money, hire good people and then leave them alone.
- Building the Young Adult Division
Laibe chaired the first Young Adult conference at Emma Farm Camp, which drew 125 people. The division hired staff, raised about $60,000 under first chairman Lester Hamburg (later Laibe's stepbrother), and got young people seats on agency boards. Many of its members, Jesse Cohen among them, later led the Federation. Laibe also mentions the division's newspaper, The Reflector.
- Rounds on a Frozen Morning
Sidney Stark, a tyrannical but tireless fundraiser for the Jewish Home for the Aged, treated Laibe as a rival until the morning Laibe, the home's young physician, made rounds through a city frozen solid. From then on they were fast friends.
- The Principal Who Shoveled the Walk
Laibe's outreach and capital-fund plans to save the Institute were blocked, and he defends Saul Abrams, who taught, ran the school and even got children onto buses on cold mornings. In 1992 the Institute was folded into the new Jewish Education Institute.
- A Thousand Jewish Doctors
In 1990 Laibe revives the UJF Physicians Division, finding about a thousand Jewish physicians across 28 hospitals where once there was only Montefiore. His new Maimonides Society signs up over 200 members and honors him with its first Maimonides Award.
- Twenty Minutes Became Ninety
After Senator John Heinz's death, Laibe was sent to lobby his appointed successor, Harris Wofford, on West Bank settlements. A 20-minute appointment stretched to an hour and a half, and Wofford became an ally whom Laibe introduced to the Jewish community.
- Never Again Without a Fight
Summoned to the White House at 7 a.m., AIPAC president Mayer Mitchell told President Bush that a 1939 refugee ship turned away with no one to speak for it was why he devoted his life to this work. Bush listened but went public at noon.
- Talked into the Chairmanship
The fund helped 199 people last year with $25,000, from a hearing aid to co-signed loans for new immigrants. Laibe resists another post until Saul Rubin calls it the only organization that really helps a person who's down and out.
- What Boards Are For
Left off the new board, Laibe was later persuaded to join it, attended one meeting, and quit at 70. He sets out his philosophy: boards should raise money and hire good professionals, then leave them alone.